wresting control back in the heat of passion

[Ozme52]

Does he know he's participating in a contest or are you just trying to submit for your own pleasure?

...or are you just trying to submit for your own pleasure?

I lost you here?
Isn't any sub????

You parsed the quote. It required both halves... and the answer is as I suspected....

No, he doesn't necessarily know. and yes, it is for my own pleasure, Sir.

So if she submits in her mind and then takes control when it becomes physical, there's no one to enforce her submission.

She's asking how to "discipline" her reactions so that she can keep the fantasy that she is being used.