wresting control back in the heat of passion

[thir]

She is in need of said dominant... she's telling us her partner is vanilla.

Are you in fact saying that you are in a vanilla relationship, skittish doe? I did not read it like that from your explanation about being pushed up against the wall etc. Does that mean that you are playing your sub side out in your head, without your love knowing about it?

BTW You are not bad at explaining, mind, just me being awfully slow with a bad cold in my head ;-)