Quote Originally Posted by skittish doe View Post
He dislikes any references to BDSM and gets extremely upset when I state any verbal labels. Words like “Dominance”, “submissiveness”, talking about my “submissive side”, and any reference to a “scene” tend to set him off, and so I try to avoid mention of them.
This rings very true in my own case, doe. I have stopped trying at this point. It's not worth the arguments/crying/worrying. My way of handling things is not/will never be perfect, but it's all I can think to do right now so that his feelings aren't constantly hurt and he's not always questioning our marriage and his place. In my case, it was just easier to stop bringing it up. Stop any referrence to it.

Now I go to munches alone and local activies alone and I like it. I like to meet other people who don't judge me based on this aspect of who I am (or at least, not to my face). The first time I heard anyone use the term "Sir" --in a D/s fashion anyway--I wanted to cry...I know it sounds silly--it was at my local munch and it was the couple who sort of "run" it. She called him Sir and he responded to her and they just had such an easy way about their relationship. Nobody seemed tense about it and they are so open and easy with each other...I actually ended up sitting with them the entire night and they asked me questions and I asked them questions and it was really, really calm and nice...

There is a fetish fair coming to my area this weekend and I'll be going. They asked me to join them and told me that they'll keep their eyes on me and I appreciate it...it's nice to know someone is there standing at my back even if I am alone.

Now, sd...wanna wrestle? LMAO