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[13'sbadkitty]

i also have PTSD, which is healthier than i was a few years back, but still enough to make my Master nervous about playing with me. W/we took O/our time, and communication has been so important as said above. Sometimes a small miscommunication can bring me to tears because i say for example thought i wasn't going to be punished and was. i have found that there are times when W/we play that i need Him to kiss me so i can connect to Him and remember He loves me. If for whatever reason W/we have a busy few days with the kids and work i may need Him to spend some time gently touching me so i can slip back into feeling safely. i have found that i feel safer when "collared" so W/we moved into a 24/7 TPE kind of thing. There are moments the vestiges of past experience will surface for no reason at all, like flinching if He strokes my cheek but for the most part i feel safer with my Master than anyone on the planet. i hope it works out for you too!

[symphony]

i have found that i feel safer when "collared" so W/we moved into a 24/7 TPE kind of thing. There are moments the vestiges of past experience will surface for no reason at all, like flinching if He strokes my cheek but for the most part i feel safer with my Master than anyone on the planet. i hope it works out for you too!

I compleatly agree, I think that my sir is one of the few people that I feel safe with, and the whole situation makes me feel safer. His controll of me means that i have a little less to worry about I suppose lol and when I serve him its a way to recipricate and we are both happy ^.^. You need so much trust in your special someone to go into these things, but having that trust makes you feel safer.

[spicennice]

Yes, agreed, everything for me is about safety at this point. It drives my entire being. I am doing my best to 'step out' again but I find that the randomness of people's reactions highly impacts on me. It throws me off so much.

I have worked for decades - a female in a highly competetive male dominated field) raised four young men, been totally involved in a testosterone based world. I was so frustrated that it always seemed to be about 'getting your way' with no awareness that all are responsible for creating mutually fulfilling relationships. And then, I was introduced to you....EUREKA! What I had been trying to articulate to others for so many years was right here all along! How did I miss this?

Having a structured relationship where there are boundaries and rules that are discussed, honoured and made to be a priority by both participants (and their peers) helps to envelope me with a secure feeling. Thank you SO much for being here. You have no idea what lifeline you have been.