Until my Mistress/Wife died 20 months ago, i was in a 24/7 D/s vanilla relationship for 30 years. At no time did either my Domme or I mix our D/s relationship with vanilla, and especially when the children were involved, and we had 4 girls in that time. I have just a few points that might help referring to the Vanilla side of our relationship.

1, we would never put our own personal projects in front of the needs of our children.
2, loyalty to your partners needs comes before loyalty to your friends
3, shit happens in all vanilla life and there is damn all you can do with it, and both Dom and sub should know that.
4, respect is given both ways, give respect to receive respect, and that should be the case of the Dom also.

I am in agreement with delia, and you have both got to sit down and talk about the situations that might arise, place boundaries that will not be breached. You are both mixing D/s with vanilla and despite what delia has said, it is a no, no. By doing that there are too many loose ends left, and every time that same situation occurs you will be left asking yourself, what is the correct thing to do, or what is the correct thing to do in D/s. One other thing, if a person is ill, frustrated and stressed out, then they will do things that are not the normal, and if your Dom does not realise this or for that matter care then it is him with the problem. If you cannot communicate with your Dom then you have an even bigger problem, because communication is what makes the 24/7 D/s vanilla work.
You must also remember that this is only from my own personal experiences, and you must only draw from it that which is appropriate, or disregard it completely.


Regards ian 2411