vanilla issue interfering with 24/7 rule

[13'sbadkitty]

Okimawiw means chief also and the kids have been told its just a term for husband in Cree which the kids know i studied under a medicine man for years. they would all believe it if even they googled it as denuseri had done because they are all familiar with dialects and colloquialisms and the such. (except the youngest) they have all been to ceremony where i called the medicine man "grandfather" and understand respect is very important to me. long before i ever knew what bdsm was, with my ex husband the kids all knew me as an "old fashioned" wife/mom so this for them with me is normal and i and my Master laugh and joke and poke fun in front of them all the time. i behave like a more respectful version of myself before W/we decided to go down this route (most days)

as far as the girlfriend part, i didn't so much mean the kink part, more the submissive part. most of the women i know are very, um...feminist? for lack of a better word. The kind of take no shit variety i guess, lol. so when it comes to me wanting to talk about my experiences as a sub on the day to day basis it gets kind of lonely. He is kind and considerate and loving and lots of gentleness...and tries to be considerate and is for the most part. i guess what i am trying to say that when i am having a hard time within myself either through illness, exhaustion, pms and the like i wish i had someone to say things like " i know its a rule but..." kind of stuff too. or when He as my Master is extra special wonderful even...l don't know. there is so many layers to relationships and i have no practice as a sober woman in them. most of the world is only a few years old to me.

oh...an aside...W/we never play when any kids are awake. if bigger kids are around (home from college or visiting from other parents, only one is full time here of the 5) W/we don't play at all. all the toys are locked up and away. the kids don't have access to my account on the computer and i even have a seperate email that only goes to my blackberry for any bdsm related stuff.

i appreciate everyones thoughtful feedback. it means so much to me to have a place like this to feel normal. i have been too nervous to explore much online outside of here, so far. thank you very much badkitty

[IAN 2411]

Okimawiw means chief also and the kids have been told its just a term for husband in Cree which the kids know i studied under a medicine man for years. they would all believe it if even they googled it as denuseri had done because they are all familiar with dialects and colloquialisms and the such. (except the youngest) they have all been to ceremony where i called the medicine man "grandfather" and understand respect is very important to me. long before i ever knew what bdsm was, with my ex husband the kids all knew me as an "old fashioned" wife/mom so this for them with me is normal and i and my Master laugh and joke and poke fun in front of them all the time. i behave like a more respectful version of myself before W/we decided to go down this route (most days).

I would just like to point out that the calling your Dom Master in the UK in front of strangers or children by accident would probably go unnoticed. It is an old English name for Master of the house, and it is used quite a lot more than people might think. One other point being, that the only people that would know the real meaning would be another community member, and it would only get a raised eyebrow at most. In that everything other than that scenario, it could be explained away in the fashion i have just mentioned

He is kind and considerate and loving and lots of gentleness...and tries to be considerate and is for the most part.

There was no way i was meaning anything but what you say above, in my previous post. It’s just that i sometimes have a direct approach to saying things without thinking first

oh...an aside...W/we never play when any kids are awake. if bigger kids are around (home from college or visiting from other parents, only one is full time here of the 5) W/we don't play at all. all the toys are locked up and away. the kids don't have access to my account on the computer and i even have a seperate email that only goes to my blackberry for any bdsm related stuff.

I see also that you already had boundaries and they are natural and logical, which are the foundation for BDSM/vanilla relationships.

Regards ian 2411