I would echo the sentiments about being cautious & aware about who is hearing what you say. Little munchkins have big ears, just as friends & family do. Look. Your Master knows you love him, and knows you would call him Master every 10 seconds if you could. But that really isn't reality. So you have to find some kind of alternative. It seems as though you have in some way. I would just urge everyone reading this thread to take note: kids are verrrry perceptive creatures, as are friends, family, etc. They will "see" things you don't want them to see. So exercise caution. It might mean that maybe you can't have as much fun as you want in public, or maybe you will have to restrain yourself... and sure, there will be those that argue "it's YOUR life... they will just have to accept it." Well, ok, fine, to a degree. But they also didn't agree to become part of your BDSM universe... so you should have a little respect for them as well & have a little decorum when in THEIR universe.

But back on topic.

I actually don't have children. I have a relative I babysit on a routine basis, but my experience comes from living with elder relatives, and having perhaps the nosiest family in the universe. We've made it work because we've WANTED it to work. We do it by having our fun in private, and respecting their space as well. We don't play our games in front of them, and we restrain our lifestyle in front of them. On the other hand, if they are in our universe, well... be careful what you wander into, ya know? LOL

But look. Clearly we all have ups & down, and good days and bad days. The good relationships weather through these times through good communication, and trial & error. Nothing is ever going to be perfect, and you are going to have to find what works for you. There are a lot of people that would be repulsed if you told them that your BDSM affects the way you raise your kids, other people wouldn't even flinch. It's just the old "different folks, different strokes." As long as it is working for you guys, and the kids are healthy & happy and you aren't doing anything illegal, hey, go for it. I have seen things far worse than that.

Assss for the girlfriends... only a couple of mine know. Generally, we'll talk about "everything-but." If the convo turns to sex talk, I will offer up some info, but not a lot. I prefer to keep this part of my life mine. People tend to get a little weird once you mention it. Not that I have a problem talking about it LOL, but I prefer to not put people in an uncomfortable position, you know?

Just my two cents though