As a little side note, my slave and I were interviewed by another kinky site as a pod cast. You can listen to that two part interview at the following link (will require getting the free membership to listen).
It is titled "A Master and His Slave" And as mentioned it's in two parts.
From what I understand a few people have found it helpful. Perhaps you will as well, perhaps you won't. Just wanted to offer it, since it sorta applied to the question you asked.
I have listened to this today and would just like to say a big thank you. Its informative yet romantic, I can honestly say I have learnt a great deal. So many thanks to you both.