so i'll train myself to talk, and perhaps things will get just slightly worse before they keep getting better!
This is the perfect attitude, if you ask me!
Every good relationship has to develop a healthy way of getting through rough spots. Human beings are flawed and when you put two of them together, it's amazing we can get anything right. Your first argument is usually the hardest, because that's the one where you just don't know what to expect. But just remember that differences between you are really like growing pains; you'll learn how to read each other and communicate with each other better as time passes.

IF, you talk about your thoughts and feelings honestly and you listen to the other person's concerns with care.

And a LOT of arguments can be avoided simply by not letting it get that far; if you say what you feel up front.