amber,

Your definition of rape is your justification for calling it rape. Your frustration lies in that we don't agree with your definition and refuse to merely let you label it as rape because you want your definition to be inviolate. That's the point. We don't agree with your definition.

By the way, using your definition, I was raped. How? Because my sperm was deposited in a woman who claimed she was on the pill. But she lied. She took my sperm into her fertile womb without my consent. She figured a child would force a marriage.

When I found out, and luckily I found out before a child was conceived, I broke it off. Little did I realize I should have had her arrested and charged with rape.

And you're stuck because you have to agree now. She raped me. (If not, your contention that animals are being raped is likewise untenable.)