Unspoken rules of BDSM

[scarlet_85]

Ok... where to start?!?

I have read up on "leathers" and I can agree with you that the internet has tainted the old ways. I suppose the leather side of things is what encouraged my intrigue in etiquette. I want to be a proper, mature slave that reflects on my Master in a positive manner. I would consider myself still very much in training. I can even safely say that I have yet to play "hard"... I have only been a part of the scene for about 5 months. Over the last month and a half is when play started. My Master has had me count my spankings. However the verbal side of play is still at a minimum. I will say the obvious "Yes, Master" but tend to not speak unless asked a question.

Respect is huge! Whether I'm in the forums or with my Master. I feel like there is no need to be disrespectful to anyone in this world. We all have the same general interest but we all branch off and enjoy different things. I am very interested in being in a BDSM setting with other people. Not necessarily to play, but to just see how everyone interacts with each other. Seems like respect for others and for yourself is a very important thing for a scene like this.

At this time, I only have one Master and have not even considered venturing else where. He kind of popped my BDSM cherry lol I would like to say as you put it, I'm a "love slave" and am 100% loyal to Him. Our relationship has became so much more than I had ever expected it to because of the BDSM. I am intrigued at how you received your training. I didn't realize that there was a "house", if you will, that you could go to and be trained. Was it intense? Did you have more than one Master?

As far as status goes, I believe that's what rule #1 was ultimately pointing out. Based on where the slave walks, shows ones place with their Master.

I am sure that as time passes, I will prob have more questions for you, Denuseri. I really, really appreciate you taking the time to fill me in on all the little details. I told my Master that this site is like a support group lol everyone on here is so nice and helpful

[denuseri]

Ok... where to start?!?

I have read up on "leathers" and I can agree with you that the internet has tainted the old ways. I suppose the leather side of things is what encouraged my intrigue in etiquette. I want to be a proper, mature slave that reflects on my Master in a positive manner. I would consider myself still very much in training.

Technically one's "training" never really ends imho.


I can even safely say that I have yet to play "hard"... I have only been a part of the scene for about 5 months. Over the last month and a half is when play started. My Master has had me count my spankings. However the verbal side of play is still at a minimum. I will say the obvious "Yes, Master" but tend to not speak unless asked a question.

Nothing says you ever have to play hard anyways and there is no shame in being relativly new to things, we all started at the begining of our own journy.

Respect is huge! Whether I'm in the forums or with my Master. I feel like there is no need to be disrespectful to anyone in this world. We all have the same general interest but we all branch off and enjoy different things. I am very interested in being in a BDSM setting with other people. Not necessarily to play, but to just see how everyone interacts with each other. Seems like respect for others and for yourself is a very important thing for a scene like this.

You may be able to locate your local scene rather easily.

At this time, I only have one Master and have not even considered venturing else where. He kind of popped my BDSM cherry lol I would like to say as you put it, I'm a "love slave" and am 100% loyal to Him. Our relationship has became so much more than I had ever expected it to because of the BDSM. I am intrigued at how you received your training. I didn't realize that there was a "house", if you will, that you could go to and be trained. Was it intense? Did you have more than one Master?

The group I am refering to just called themselves "The house" in a colloquial way amongst themselves, they had no real name in any official capacity within the community that I am able to mention here. I had no idea eaither that such groups existed in any well organized setting until I was invited to join them as a potential initiate one night after visiting them as a guest of the dominant who I met completely by accident (he approached me while I was in a coffee shop lol and struck up a conversation with me) and actually went on a few dates with him prior to any sex or anything even remotely bdsmish.

I was being screened at the time and didnt know it, he introduced me during some of these outings to other members as "aquiantences" and every one was very careful to not betray anything to me until they as a group decided within their hierarchy to invite me. The dominant that was allready a member who invited me into their little world spoke for me after that and I was technically in his care, but during and after my training I was available for general use within reason with his express permission. It was after all a rather polyamourous group.


As far as status goes, I believe that's what rule #1 was ultimately pointing out. Based on where the slave walks, shows ones place with their Master.

Yep, and these practices vary to some extent depending on the individuals and situations.

I am sure that as time passes, I will prob have more questions for you, Denuseri. I really, really appreciate you taking the time to fill me in on all the little details. I told my Master that this site is like a support group lol everyone on here is so nice and helpful

It is an honor and priveleage to be of whatever small service in these matters to those seeking knowledge in the art.