This is a wonderfully thought provoking question. Too bad more haven't chimed in with their twopence. I think that life does not always or often occur as a choice between two alternatives. Life more often occurs as a choice between now or not now. Rarely, for example, does a naturally submissive person have a choice between the perfect romantic match who will be available in 6 months, if all goes well, or a not quite perfect, not so romantic, but okay for now Master who is available right now. Usually what happens is, someone comes along who seems to fulfill some of one's desires, and you get to choose this or not this. So does love grow as the whip marks become more perfectly placed, or does one wait for Zorro.

Does the Master without portfolio go ahead and spend time with the woman who is not really a natural slave, but likes to be tied up and spanked and then fucked, but her physical attributes are not what one has been seeing on Kink.com?

Ah, real life. Kinda cool isn't it?