I'm new to the scene: little experience.

I came to this 10 yrs ago as I was leaving my first wife and meeting my next. (A special moment: reading The Loving Dominant under a lighthouse in Norfolk).

I feel dominant, but it seemed hard to be dominant when your failing (getting divorced).

We explored a very mild form of sub/dom experience before we married...after that the buzz diminished. And there are no basements (dungeons) on the gulf coast, but we did have 2 kids at home.

Can you pick and choose a BDSM lifestyle ?

I'm rambling. Somebody please start a thread on alcohol and BDSM.

Anyway... the dom feeling has never gone away..and now as I read the postings on this site I feel like I am missing something thats important. Not just to me but to my wife as well. We have become ordinary meeting the demands of a very busy (work demanded) life style (12 hrs a day leaves little optional pleasure).

So how to start ? I will not let this go. I won't.

The intelligence, respect and support, and yes love...draws me.

It seems to me BDSM is a pure form.

Sardis