Heres a thing. A kink of mine that's currently puzzling me as I cant quite figure out what element is turning me on.

When playing with my girlfriend, I (like possibly the great majority of men) like her to kneel or sit at crotch-height and perform oral sex- she'll use her hands and such for balance, to pull back the foreskin and to stimulate.


But for some reason I cant quite identify, I find that her blowjob while her hands are handcuffed or tied behind her back so much more incredibly arousing. I dont know whether its the explicit subissiveness of that situation, the presence of bondage (the handcuffs), the sadistic element of watching her struggle or whether its the necessity of committing to the blowjob more intensely to avoid falling?

So for those of you both giving and recieving- why do you find a handcuffed blowjob more arousing than a hands-available one?

Thx.

V.