My kitten and I finally found time to have some fun last night after several days of life getting in the way. It's been a very stressful week, with a lot of crap going wrong.

I tend to dwell on things that are going wrong, letting them eat up more and more of my time and energy, so it's times like these that I need my kitten the most -- having her take my arm while we're walking and lean her head on my shoulder or rest her head on my lap while we're watching TV goes a long way toward centering me and returning my perspective. Well, with the degree of crap I was dwelling on last night, I needed a bit more, so I gave her the task driving all those thoughts out of my head and making it so all I could think about was her and the pleasure she was giving me.

She did a damn good job of it, too. I'm a lucky, lucky man.

At several times during her ministrations, I had the urge to interrupt and just take her, but the urge never became action. I started thinking about why this might be ... it seems fairly self-evident that a woman can drive a man to the point of desire where he'll simply forget about everything else and take her with a single-minded drive, no matter how much pleasure he's experiencing from her actions ... so why didn't I?

The answer I came up with was that I didn't, because I could.

The urges (and make no mistake, there were a lot of urges) were always tempered by the knowledge that she is mine ... and that I can take her when and how I chose. So there was no need to interrupt what she was doing, no need to give up the incredible sensations I was feeling, in order to satisfy the desire she'd aroused, because I could do that at will. Sort of like having my cake and eating it.

Did I mention how phenomenally lucky I am?

But it begs the question: Does that mean that she can't create that sense of urgency that would make me give up the ongoing pleasure for an immediate and transitory release? Is it not possible for a submissive to drive a dominant to that point because of the dominant's knowledge of his control?

I'm curious what others think on this topic -- and looking forward to some experimentation.