I thought about putting this in the submissive's couch but I figure it's more personal and might work better here.

I found a new Dom just over a month ago and of course, with a new Dom, it's a new 'play style' and a whole new set of 'rules and restrictions' for a submissive to get used to.

In being with this Dom I've actually realized exactly how much was missing from my last relationship in the bdsm front and how my ex's way of 'playing' just did not 'mesh' well with the way I like to submit. Sure, I eventually learned to submit to Him in a way that I thought He might want but it was always something I had to think about and not something that felt natural.

One of the biggest differences was praise. I remember my ex telling me, way back during one of our first scenes, something along the lines of "if I don't say anything, then I liked it"

Another was that whenever I mentioned that I liked that verbal mark of ownership that comes with putting the "My ___" title in front of all 'pet names' he'd say that it was redundant, that when He called me "pet" or "toy" the "My" was 'unsaid' but was assumed to be there.

Also I felt like I was always getting,being or in the process of being punished therefore making me feel like I wasn't ever living up to expectations.

Don't get me wrong, He wasn't a bad Dom, just not the type of Dom that fit well with me. These days I get called "A good girl" because I "work so hard to please her Master" and my pet names are "My obedient little fucktoy" and "My little girl" and I've realized how much I love being praised and helps me be a better submissive.