In my everyday vanilla life I am surrounded by people. New, different, varied and plentiful everyday.

I often get BDSM thoughts sneaking in but I try not to encourage it but today something happened and I thought I would share it with you.

I love to make marks on my play partners; birch whippings, smacks, floggings, cane marks and my all time favourite rope marks. I see these marks in many different ways and they both excite and fascinate me. I see nothing 'wrong' in them and yet I know others may be horrified or disapprove and maybe sometimes I tell myself 'it's just because they don't understand'.

I am also very broadminded and am happy with 'each to their own' and can accept and even understand some pretty hardcore practices.

So why today did I get such a feeling of revulsion when I saw a teenage couple with matching love bites?

The BDSM mind truly is a complicated thing and not always so easy to understand or live with.