"I want to be trained"

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As a Dom I hear these words all the time. I see these in posts by sub's (some Dom's out there should say that too). Ask one of these people what that means and you'll get silence 9 times out of 10. What is being trained? What does it mean to be trained? Does that mean you know how to roll over and play dead? There are lots of websites with descriptions of commands, positions, expectations. Is this training? What about generic training or Formal training?


As a self proclaimed formal trainer what the heck do I do? (no this is not a personal ad)

I personally break training down into 3 separate groups:

1> Introductory
2> Formal
3> Personal

Introductory:
This is my personal favorite type of training. The main focus is to introduce and help a submissive find her limits, hard and soft, and determine what level of submission and erotic power exchange is best suited for her. Many girls have never felt most of the tools and toys out there. Floggers vary is shape size weight and texture. Different types of ropes or clamps feel different. These types of things are what I focus on. Introducing someone to all the different fun activities of BDSM that they are curious about that I feel I know well enough to show them. Example I never single tail a newbie for 2 reasons, first I am not comfortable with my skill level to show this to someone for a first experience, second well it’s a bit of an ouch.

Formal:
First of there is no such thing as “formal training” There is no manual of standards out there. There is no outline of formality like the code of conduct in the military. There are what are referred to as “Formal” or “Old” house’s in Europe that have had a standard of protocol and etiquette since the 40’s but this is mostly made of leather scene protocol of the “Old Guard” (I’ll post on that topic in a few days). With that said, I also stated I am a self proclaimed formal trainer. So how can I train someone in something that doesn’t exist? I don’t I train someone is the foundation of my methods which is nothing more then a large group of community expectations both public and private. To that I have grouped together some Old Guard items as well as other historical and military protocols and etiquette. Why not just use strict old guard methods? Well I would really like to see a submissive female cup another submissive females testicals. :soapbox: :

Personal:
My personal training methods I’m not going to outline here to much as that would turn into 40 some odd pages of what I expect.

Aside from a few fundamental basics training is nothing more then learning the technical details of a dominant's expectations. So next time someone says they want to be trained, ask them what it means to them and set your expectations accordingly. But before you set out to train someone beyond and introductory level set your goals before you start training, know what you want and work towards them and adjust as you need. Training is never the same for ever person. If you’re a Dom understand what your training and the possible effects of what your doing. Training a girl to cum on command may sound nice but it’s a royal pain in the butt to train and is rather boring when accomplished. So really know what you want before you start training someone or ask to be trained yourself.