I flogged him and was beating on his lilly white behind when he turned on me. I had him shackled to a spreader bar, which was not secured to anything. He reached for me and yelled, "Don't."

Previously, what I was doing would elicit some growls, but we have talked about that. He says that part of his sub space is to go into an almost aggressive mode before going into his quiet space.

Anyway, I wasn't afraid by his reaction, but was at a loss concerning what to do. So I stopped and we moved on to something gentler.

He later apologized, at which point, I reminded him to use safe words. They are there for us to communicate as well as to give me that freedom and power to do what I like. I told him I have to trust him to use them, in order for us to successfully move within our BDSM.

I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts or insights they could share.