Where BDSM lets one control another, can some of those ideas work against oneself, to make something annoying become beneficial or at least the 'path of least resistance'?

By simple analogy: I lift 30lb weights, 5 reps, 1 set; I force myself to do 2 or 3 sets; this could happen by "will power" or boredom or curiosity, but, I force it so that I may have an orgasm that evening.

Clearly the way to learn is to have to other options, or, very painful other options that seem like they are impossible.