What if...

[frankee]

your Dom/me Master/Mistress wanted YOU to dominate (online or in r/l)?
Not as a regular occurance but as once in awhile thing. Would you do it? How would you feel about it?

[Warbaby1943]

If I had a Mistress that wanted me to dominate, I would love to do it. I have been think more along those lines lately anyway. I would certainly need guidance but after reading many of the posts in this forum, I think I would be fairly good at it.

[Timberwolf]

Would love to. Though in the case of my regular online Domme, I'd have a great deal to live up to given the quality of her skills. All the better, a challenge.

[arwcuw]

I would be willing, I might even enjoy it, but I don't think I'd be any good at it. I'm not a take-charge person, even in real life; if I'm ever in a leadership position, I tend to screw it up. Plus I'm not very good at reading others' emotions, even people I know very well. Then again, you never know until you try.

[chattel69]

with my bitchy attitude, I could probably do it...I think we all have a little Dom in us, just like we all have a little testosterone or estrogen.

[Qmoq]

Gulp. I imagine there's nothing scarier than a normally sub person being a dom(domme)... because they'd know exactly what hurts and humiliates the most.

Is it wrong that I'm aroused by that last sentence?

Q xx

[frankee]

Gulp. I imagine there's nothing scarier than a normally sub person being a dom(domme)... because they'd know exactly what hurts and humiliates the most.

Is it wrong that I'm aroused by that last sentence?

Q xx

*giggling*

[His_pita]

I would do it. We have talked about me switching and Domming him and we have talked about having another submissive join us and letting me domme them. I really like the idea of having my own boytoy to torture.

[wingsofanangel]

I have done this sort of thing before (not with Ocean) Its okay for about 5 minutes and then I get SOOOOO bored. Everyonce in a while if I do sort of an out of body experience I can do okay. I get Domme feeling about... ocne every few months. The only person I have ever really been able to Domme was Dhyanna (don't tell, shhhhhhhhh) and I think its because I know exactly what she likes so I can go off what I have seen/heard.

All in all.. I do not really enjoy it... it just doesn't fit me... it feels sooo awkward. And I do not knock Domme/male sub. relationships.. but in my head, for me.. I can only get the idea of Dom/femalesub. ... I hope that does not sound offensive... but in my head its not "right" for a female to Dom a male.... but when I see it here, it doesn't bother me.. I just can't get myself to do it.

I suppose I am too dependable upon a man? who knows.

Sera

[frankee]

i get what you're saying. If i had a Dom, i don't know if i could be the dominant. Since i have a Domme, i think i might be able to do it. my Mistress thinks that i'll have no problems but i have to admit i'm very nervous,anxious and turned on all at the same time...lol!
Either way i don't want to disappoint Her.

[StillBehindBlueEyes]

I didn't think I could do it at all. Then Hawk talked me into a story where I have to dominate. I'm finding the entire concept strange but interesting.
I've found in the story that as long as I'm being dominated and forced to dominate. I'm fine. Giggle

[frankee]

I didn't think I could do it at all. Then Hawk talked me into a story where I have to dominate. I'm finding the entire concept strange but interesting.
I've found in the story that as long as I'm being dominated and forced to dominate. I'm fine. Giggle

Oh that naughty Hawk, not surprised! lol

[Silke]

I'd be scared to run out of ideas, lol...gotta keep 'em busy somehow. And no, I don't think I'd feel comfortable doing it. It's not my nature. Teasing - yes, domming - not really.

[mina]

I couldn't do it. It'd just be really awkward and weird, not to mention I'd suck (lol) at it. Maaaybe if I had to dominate a female sub, but Master? No way. Well I guess if he told me to then I'd have to, but I'm pretty sure we'll never have that conversation lol.

[Misato36]

I don't think that I would be able to be the dominate one in a relationship. I'm not strong enough switch roles.

[cariad]

Have only been here once. I had the honour of mentoring, online, a great guy, who is now living the lifestyle with a lovely sub.

Although I had flirted with him a few times, we had never played. One day he asked me I would play through a scene with him as a Domme; he wished to experience ‘the other side’.

Initially I hated every moment of it since it went against everything I am, but then suddenly I switched over to doing it as a submissive act, and it worked for me. Similar to StillBehindBlueEyes’ experience. Apparently I ‘rocked’ as a Domme – but would never wish to go there again.

Sub to the core me…..

cariad

[pixie_dust]

In the past, I have taken the role of Domme a few times; but only by the request of WiDom. It was a very soft control/tease involving only restraints. He says he enjoys it and that I do it very well (perhaps the teasing part!), but I always feel awkward. I will do it again in the future if he requests it of me, but I am much more comfortable in the sub role.

[poetic_justice]

I have taken the dominant role during sex with my Master, but only in the sense that I was on top. In many ways it was a submissive act on its own, as he tied my arms from wrist to elbow behind my back and made me stand before him on the bed, before lowering onto him. *shivers* I can still feel his lips on my neck.

Anyway...sorry, a little sidetracked there *blushes*. I have been on top only twice with him, the second time it was me holding his hands down beside his head as I got rid of my pent up sexual energy. That was quite interesting, but I prefer to have him take the dominant side.

Wow, I can see a poem coming out of that.

[Ozme52]

I have taken the dominant role during sex with my Master, but only in the sense that I was on top. In many ways it was a submissive act on its own, as he tied my arms from wrist to elbow behind my back and made me stand before him on the bed, before lowering onto him. *shivers* I can still feel his lips on my neck.

Anyway...sorry, a little sidetracked there *blushes*. I have been on top only twice with him, the second time it was me holding his hands down beside his head as I got rid of my pent up sexual energy. That was quite interesting, but I prefer to have him take the dominant side.

Wow, I can see a poem coming out of that.

Just want to say... from the perspective of a dom, being on top during sex doesn't even come close to being dominant... oh the things I can do from below... with my hands free.....

[cookiecat]

Just want to say... from the perspective of a dom, being on top during sex doesn't even come close to being dominant... oh the things I can do from below... with my hands free.....

sighs...thinks Oz is great and powerful & will pay attention to that man behind the curtain....(and wise (re: Kate & Evan...probably very true))

[MsUther]

I love to dominate. But it gives me a totally different type of pleasure, it satisfy my brain more than my body.Its more of a game than its something i do cause its me. Its still very fun though.
And to be tored down from that position and back down to my place.... sigh...

[cookiecat]

I love to dominate. But it gives me a totally different type of pleasure, it satisfy my brain more than my body.Its more of a game than its something i do cause its me. Its still very fun though.
And to be tored down from that position and back down to my place.... sigh...

MsUther - this hits the nail on the head, so to speak! I came here with subby feelings, hoping to explore that. I met someone here online - (he has been Dom to me) - and recently, he asked me to Domme him. At first it felt like oddest, almost most submissive thing I could do because it felt so opposite of what I thought a sub is/should be.

But holy cats - it was a totally different type of pleasure which satisfied both brain and body!! And as MsUther said, to be put back into your place is definitely part of the thrill.

smiling as i post this.....cookiecat

[SheepishJaina]

My Master sometimes is in a very sub mood. He will sometimes ask me to switch, but knows that I am very uncomfortable with it. He says that I seem natural at it, but it just isn't me. (as he hollars at me to make him breakfast now..) Over all we're both more comfortable with the way our roles are now.


(Though when I'm being punished... sometimes I would LOVE to give him a taste of it.)

[Arria]

(Though when I'm being punished... sometimes I would LOVE to give him a taste of it.)

OMG I am completely with you there! *laughs*

[Silke]

*big smile* this sounds wonderful, cookie! What an interesting new avenue to explore. And it sounds like you're having a ball...

[cookiecat]

Thanks Silke. I do have to say Evan & Kate's post have definitely been of interest lately....

[Ozme52]

Thanks Silke. I do have to say Evan & Kate's post have definitely been of interest lately....

Agreed, but I don't think they're "switching." I think they're correcting a mistake.

[Silke]

*grins* I can imagine...and I hope you'll keep us up to date, cookie. I'm dying to find out where that journey takes you.

[KermitsKeeper]

Glad I found this! It does appear to be true, amazing to us both. However, there have been a couple of times where I have hit an emotional upheaval and can't take care of Evan. He has respectfully asked for control for a short period of time, and then given me simple things to think about to get me back on track. In many ways had we not started where we were, I don't think this would have worked. I can tell you, though, that I am happy to get back on top every time! And Evan is much happier with me there, too.

[Ozme52]

Glad I found this! It does appear to be true, amazing to us both. However, there have been a couple of times where I have hit an emotional upheaval and can't take care of Evan. He has respectfully asked for control for a short period of time, and then given me simple things to think about to get me back on track. In many ways had we not started where we were, I don't think this would have worked. I can tell you, though, that I am happy to get back on top every time! And Evan is much happier with me there, too.

Don't worry Kate. Sometimes it takes a while to hit your stride...