In the last two years I've found myself arriving at a crossroads, but this is good in that I've fully realised that what I really want,desire,find suitable is a dominant male.
This is fine as it sounds to me but I do know that there is a lot more to it than that. So far the two qualities that are important are:
(i) Trust and respect.
(ii) A person that is comfortable enough within themselves to get inside my head, as I am always comfortable enough to learn new things about my partner.

Of course (as others do) I do have my personal preferences when it comes to attraction and what attracts me, but it's not so much a 'looks' based thing, it's more something that relates to someone being comfortable in their own skin as well as being fully aware of themselves personally and sexually.

So, I 'think' I'm on the right track, but I'm not sure as I find that many may say 'yes they are dominant' but somehow their idea of dominance (what I have found, and run away from) is more related to the 'ass slap' hetero vanilla variety, which isn't what it's about to me.

ideas, tips?