I've just re-read some of the horror stories relating to first time experiences and it made me wonder if there's a recipe a potential dom could use to ensure the first time is good for all parties involved.

In the not-too-distant future I'm going to travel 3.000 miles and meet the sub I've been chatting with since the start of this year, and I want it to be as much fun as we've visualized it. Actually I take that back. I want it to be nearly as good in REAL life as it has so far been fun to imagine in the story she's helping me with.

I began investigating this lifestyle not sure what I was, and have found myself being comfortable as her o/l dom. Now I don't want to ruin it by being unprepared for a real life scene and although it may seem 'subbie' to some, I want it to be everything she's ever dreamed about. That includes meeting place, length spent in the scene, tools needed etc.

This will be her first time too, and left in my sub's hands, she believes she wants to merely be collared, humiliated and used, resulting in orgasmic pleasure like never before. But my vanilla experience tells me that sometimes what we think we want isn't always what gets us off in r/l...

So Dom/mes and subs with first-time and first-hand experiences to share would sure make my preparations easier!