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Chastity is another meaningful lifestyle activity that I enjoy. I suppose I feel a strong attraction for it because to me chastity has so much to do with being controlled and being in control. In a D/s relationship, being required to remain chaste by a Domme gives her control one of the most intimate aspect of life, sexual expression and pleasure.

Within the context of the lifestyle, chastity can be neatly divided along two lines, Forced chastity and Enforced chastity. At least, to me the two while related have not so subtle differences. Enforced chastity I think is simply when a sub gives over control of his/her sex life to a dominant. The dominant then decides when and how the sub is permitted sexual release. The sub refrains from sexual touching and orgasms without permission simply out of respect for, obedience to and a desire to please the dominant.

Forced chastity however involves the wearing of chastity devices or chastity belts, sometimes even against the sub’s will. For male subs it is often associated Femdom. Forced chastity in its simplest terms prevents access to the genitals for the purpose of sexual pleasure. People being what they are, the state of relinquishing control of when or if you can have orgasms from sex or masturbation typically results in sexual arousal building to the point of being incredibly intense.

What seems to some to be a form of perverted torture is actually a way that many submissive males find adds considerable pleasure to their sex lives and submissive experience. Aside from purely sexual considerations, and probably more importantly, being kept in a state of extreme sexual arousal without release heightens my feelings and expression of submission. I feel significantly less submissive after being allowed sexual release and then it has to build again gradually along with the arousal aspect. So personally, I think that is likely the reason I find that chastity resonates with me because it feels good to have those heightened submissive feelings.

I have experienced both Forced and Enforced chastity in past relationships with female dominants. Orgasm control and denial, related activities to chastity play, are both activities I find meaningful and enjoyable.

While I am open in the right circumstances to either, my preference is for either long-term Enforced chastity or short-term Forced. The reason is because, when permitted, I enjoy having sex with my Domme and at least in my view, long-term Forced chastity usually goes along with cuckolding as Dommes do typically enjoy having sex. Cuckolding is one of those things that I find immensely arousing to fantasize about, but not something I enjoy experiencing in real life, perhaps because it strikes at my male ego.

If I am in a sexual-type relationship with a Domme, when she requires sexual service I prefer to be the one she chooses to provide it. Fantasizing about cuckolding, for me is only another intense way of indulging my humiliation kink. Thus, being kept locked up until she requires my services is fine, but I don’t particularly enjoy being keep locked up perpetually to the point that she seeks gratification elsewhere.

Serving my Domme sexually and satisfying her in that regard are just part and parcel of being a good submissive the way I see it and part of the overall service theme. Also, I feel good about myself when in Enforced chastity because I have to rely on my own willpower to be obedient. I take pleasure in denying myself to please my dominant.