Red Dragon {mpellegrino}

Well another darn day in paradise huh? It's a hard life!

Got to thinking about a lot of things today. I will forget most but here are some.

This thing referred to as being submissive seems to be such an infinitive term. To nearly all it means something but to nearly all it seems to mean something different. I am sure I am not likely to throw any more light on the subject really, one which I am magnificently ill qualified to speak about, except in my view point as a Dom. But I won't let stop me.

Being submissive it seems for many is not a thing set in stone, it is more of a journey and often the destination you set out for is not the place you arrive. If you ever do arrive. So, it seems to me that like many things in life it perhaps more to do with the journey than the start or the destination, But I do feel it better to know where you start and to have a goal or destination to start with, keeping in mind this may change over the course of time indeed may change many time almost imperceptibly at times.

There is no one holy grail for all, every one seems to travel a different path. Some seek a slavery that makes their feelings and wishes irrelevant. Though it is a dangerous path possibly leading to abuse it is a path some tread. Others seek nothing more than a firm guiding hand. A partner who will lead and be 'alpha' whist at the same time being loving and romantic at times. As someone recently said to me "like it used to be before the war".

There is no right or wrong, all aspects are valid it is for ourselves to find what is right for us and to let others know as we change with time and experience. This communication is the vital thing. The glue that keeps the whole thing together.

All to often it seems subs, especially young ones, seem to almost throw themselves on someone who places their idea of what a sub should be on them. For a few, this is what they seek, and is great. For many not sure what it is they want yet it can be a disaster and put them off. My advice is always to take time and not to rush (easy said and hard to do). Don't over analyze, let it happen and before you know it you will be comfortable in your submissiveness and more able to express it should you wish to.

I say this because to me that is how Domliness (is that a word?) seems to me and so I presume the same might be said for submissiveness.

I feel different to many Doms. I do not favour punishment as such unless it is as a form of recreation for a partner. I want a sub to do as I ask (and I always ask - never demand) because they wish do so to please me, even if it is not what they wish, rather than because they fear the repercussions.

My view is that this is far harder for a sub to do because there is always the offer that they may decide not to do something so more temptation to resist. So seeing this temptation resisted gives me more pleasure because I know the sub in question wants to serve me to please me and not because they fear displeasing me.

I am starting to ramble so I will stop there and add later when I can.