Erotic sexual denial
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Erotic sexual denial, also known as orgasm denial, is a sexual practice where a person is kept in the plateau phase of the human sexual response cycle for an extended length of time without satisfying climax. This is sometimes a practiced in association with BDSM, and can be thought of as the more extreme version Orgasm control, which ends in satisfying climax. The subject may either be allowed an orgasm at the end (in which case, the orgasm is generally much stronger than normal), or denied one, in which case they will generally feel strong feelings of sexual frustration.
An alternative form of erotic denial is the total denial of all genital stimulation. To ensure a total denial of stimulation a couple may use a chastity belt or other device that physically prevents touch and/or (for males) full erection.
Short-term denial practices
[edit] Tease and Denial
Main article: Tease and Denial
Tease and Denial describes when a person is stimulated until orgasm is near, and then stimulation is reduced to keep the person being stimulated on the very brink or "edge" of orgasm like with Orgasm control but without the promise of orgasm at the end, or abruptly ceased all contact to prevent orgasm completely. If orgasm still occurs after removal of stimulation, it brings less pleasure than usual, and is considered a "Ruined orgasm", as opposed to being a "denied orgasm". Alternatively, the release phase (for men) might be prevented by some sort of constriction (blocked orgasm). Depending on the relationship, subjects might be repeatedly teased to the point of orgasm several times, causing feelings of intense arousal and physiological and psychological need.
If Bondage (BDSM) is employed in a Tease and denial session, it is called a "Tie and tease"
[edit] Tie and Tease Activities
Main article: Tie and tease
A Tie and tease can be thought of as an extended sexual stimulation performed on a subject who is restrained. This is practice is often an integral part of erotic denial. It is notable that in BDSM discussion, negotiation usually focuses on the activities which may or may not be agreed, rather than the emotion generated (unless at an unacceptable level). Tie and tease activities are physically as well as and psychologically intense because the intense feelings of sexual frustration are enhanced by the sensation of helplessness induced by the bondage.
[edit] Non-orgasm ejaculation
As an alternative technique, it is stated to be possible for a man to be trained to ejaculate, but to do so without achieving orgasm. This requires practice and discipline on the man's part. One key to the technique is to remove all stimulation of the penis at the exact moment when an orgasm would otherwise be achieved; the result is a full expulsion of semen but without the concomitant relief. According to websites on the subject, this technique enables a man to be kept in a state of denial indefinitely, yet maintain prostate health more thoroughly than the alternative technique of prostate milking.
[edit] Total Denial
The practice of total denial is where the subject is not allowed any sexually gratifying touch. The subject may or may not be brought to arousal through other means, depending on the situation.
[edit] Ruined Orgasm
Main article: Ruined orgasm
Ruined orgasm is a technique used to deny a person the physical pleasure of release, while still allowing climax. It is often performed by removing all stimulation of the genitals at the moment the subject crosses the brink of orgasm.
[edit] Long term denial
Most men can masturbate to at least an orgasm each week; without that spontaneous nocturnal ejaculation is common.[citation needed] Suppressing this can result in an intense emotional and psychological impact.[citation needed]
Subjects can be kept in denial for extended periods of up to several weeks (periods around 2 to 4 weeks each time are often quoted as being safe subject to proper skincare and regular checking). Many, however, suggest that this is very subjective, and often informally suggest a shorter period such as 3 days or a week between release instead—especially when starting.
Beyond that, the long term consequences for denial are unclear, although there are negative effects implied by a recent Australian study, which found that frequent masturbation may help prevent prostate cancer in men.
Most sources seem to agree that the body will spontaneously reabsorb sperm, but that the prostate fluids should be removed fully and regularly, if not through orgasm then via internal prostatic massage (known as "prostatic milking") to reduce the risk of prostate cancer and inflammation, atrophy (orgasm involves the prostate muscles) or tissue damage to the prostate. It is also said that if erection is inhibited for long periods the skin of the penis becomes less elastic which may cause pain or other difficulty in the future.
Normally, during sexual arousal, sperm and ejaculatory fluid accumulate in these glands backing up behind valves in the ejaculatory ducts. When fluid pressure reaches a high enough threshold, the valves open and the urethral bulb fills, triggering the ejaculatory reflex and muscular contractions of orgasm, which empties the glands.
Without orgasm, prostate milking may be used to help to flush out the build up of toxins which accumulate within the prostate glands. This can be done by allowing ejaculation without orgasm. As most men need penile stimulation to reach the latter, this milking can be done without risk of an orgasm.
Milking involves vigorous massage of the prostrate, during which fluid will be secreted with a pleasurable sensation somewhat like slow urination. After continued massage, the fluid will flow out freely. Once a sufficient amount of ejaculatory fluid has drained, insufficient fluid pressure to trigger the ejaculatory reflex will remain, and no amount of penile stimulation will result in orgasm until the fluid glands are recharged. This may take several hours to several days. Milking can thus be used prevent orgasm and nocturnal ejaculations if applied at appropriately timed intervals.
For females, there are many psychological and emotional issues that turn into physical issues because of long-term sexual denial. For example, many women have claimed that their cramps at the time of their menstruation are less painful because they are sexually satisfied (
http://www.ilovefemaleorgasm.com/). In addition, the writers of "I Heart Female Orgasm" assert that it "reduces stress, tension, and headaches." In addition, it "helps one to fall asleep" (
http://www.ilovefemaleorgasm.com/).
[edit] Erotic denial as a form of control
Erotic sexual denial, in various forms, is sometimes associated with creating a state of sexual need leading to a more pliable agreeable outlook by the denied party.
Orgasm denial practices can allow dominant males and females to exercise control and training over a highly intimate and psychologically significant part of their partners' lives. This can extend to tolerance of increased stimulation, and training both to hold back, or to orgasm on command. This technique gives the dominant partner great feelings of control and power.
