Quote Originally Posted by gagged_Louise View Post
You should ask moptop rather than jeanne to assist in this Oz, she has a definite switch streak.
Thanks, Louise! Yes, and I'm looking for more practice. Ladies... feel free to visit me. My doors are open. And no doubt various other things as well.

I totally agree with Louise that Tessa is coming up a soft limit here - after all, in the previous thread, she managed to go as far as getting her master to come along and say he wouldn't use cum restriction - but she opens up this thread all on her ownsome - of course, you can give control of your orgasms without cum restriction cumming into the affair! Orgasm overload, Tessa?

As to the question... orgasm control. It is not specifically about denial or permission. It is not specifically about restriction, or over-load. It is not about on-demand, on-command. It is all of those things, but the fundamental thing is - your orgasms belong to him (or her). You give that control over to him/her, as their most fundamental and basic right of ownership.

The actual practice of it all - well, it doesn't happen just like that, no - not for me, anyway. I mean, some people may find they can cum on demand with no effort at all - I am no-where near that! Especially if previously much denied, like rach. You plateau, and getting yourself off that plateau can be hard.

Oz - you said it was about 'the right dom... one who's paying attention'. That makes me think that the permission thing (or maybe at least during the training stage) is actually about the dom saying yes, when it is inevitable or necessary anyway - not quite sure what I'm thinking there - yes, the dom needs to know the sub well enough to know when she's going to get to that plateau, I suppose. Don't know - further detail on what you're paying attention to would be great?

Some people may find that in a scene they can hand over that control quite happily, but out of a scene it is a real struggle: they are not supposed to make themselves cum without his/her presence, for example - and find they just can't resist a play...

Some people may find cum restriction drives them totally bonkers, especially with teasing, and they can't cope with it for very long (break down or cave in and break the rule).

Etc etc...

I am still breaking the rules - oh my, am I ever... in serious trouble right now, in fact. Nevertheless, I am proud that he wishes to own my orgasms and control this most basic and beautiful part of me. I give them to him willingly, except... the flesh is weak.