I identify as a Caring Dominant.

It's taken the last few years for me to really encrease my own opinion of myself. I am a dominant, attractive, intelligent young woman, I can proudly say this. At times I still fret over my own shortcomings, but who doesn't?

That said, my sub is worth his weight in gold. He is charming, attractive, intelligent, warm and sexy, downright fuckable 24/7. I have a huge wish that he'll see himself, that he is worth my love, and that of our awesome friends and family.

He is my slut and my pet, with love. I whip and cane him, with caring. I lash him and purr his names, not because I consider him pathetic, or deserving of maltreatment. Our kink relationship comes from the deep bond, release and greater understanding of who we are that comes from any play we enjoy.

Am I some kind of wussy dominant, because I want my sub to love himself as much as I do? I have the greatest respect for him. I personally feel that as a dominant, I want a sharp mind, strong body, a charming person... it is true pleasure to have him submit to me, because I see him as a person of great worth.


Question:
does your dominant help your self-esteem? Or do his/her words and actions, while still pleasurable, convince/teach you to feel worse about yourself?