Hope this is in the right spot since it's not really MY BDSM Life; however, I don't think I'm placing a personal ad - just seeking information. (G is for Guidance, right!?)

Recently coming out of the D/s closet and landing here in this forum, I'm wondering what the next step is for a completely vanilla suburban girl looking for??? Am not even sure.

I feel I'm sounding like a complete noobie... so be it! I've perused alt.com and collarme - I must admit I've done online vanilla dating (sighs) but adding the kinky twist to it seems a little overwhelming at the moment. Has anyone found a partner this way? Or even here in the personals? The personals here seem a little impersonal.

Obviously, I don't know a lot about the lifestyle other than the fact I admit I've had submissive desires for a long long time and am ready to find out if this should be a part of my real life. Sooooo - any advice from those of you in D/s relationships or who have been in the lifestyle for a while. How & where do you meet like-minded folks? I've read about munches but that just doesn't seem the same as going to Barnes and Noble for a book-club discussion. (I realize I'm sounding wimpy)

In the meantime, I'll keep reading & looking...

Thanks - joely