Just starting out.. a few questions

[Mishka]

I couldn't agree more with everyone above, joely.

My first experience into bdsm was with a friend I'd known for 2 years prior.

My second, and current, I read his personal, all his posts, and liked him instantly in e-mails. It wasn't our kinks we had in common...we didn't even discuss them...there was something about him I could respect, trust and feel safe with. So bdsm doesn't have to be sex...though I've only heard of it getting there...but doesn't have to start there.

[joely]

Thanks everyone for the advice. I am here to explore, find out info - maybe meet a few online friends along the way.

Another question: how likely is it to have / sustain an online D/s relationship? fantassy, cariad, mishka - are your relationships online v. real life? Ozme - I see you're "searching for a sub" - do you "do" this online or real life? Is your real life relationship D/s? Wolfscout - I see you're married to a sub yet have other subs. Are your other relationships online?

I've read through posts & threads trying to get a sense of what works. I realize this is personal information and if it's too personal, no worries!

Thanks again, everyone. It's been a very warm welcome.

joely

[Rhabbi]

I couldn't agree more with everyone above, joely.

My first experience into bdsm was with a friend I'd known for 2 years prior.

My second, and current, I read his personal, all his posts, and liked him instantly in e-mails. It wasn't our kinks we had in common...we didn't even discuss them...there was something about him I could respect, trust and feel safe with. So bdsm doesn't have to be sex...though I've only heard of it getting there...but doesn't have to start there.

Well, since she is talking about me, I have to say I agree with her, take your time, find somone you like, and go from there.

[fantassy]

Brosco and I are online only - although we spend most of our time talking to each other via headsets. We began our relationship 11 months ago, and since we live halfway around the world from each other, we're likely to stay online only. Still, I spend more time talking to Brosco each week than I do to any person here in Texas. I think we do okay because we are both into the mental aspects of D/S. I imagine it would be harder to be satisfied with online if you were into the physical S&M heavily.

fantassy