Hmm... I've been a Daddy and a Father to 3, and now I'm Dom to a couple. Some subbies need a Daddy, while others are looking more for a partner and supportive guide.

I believe (as has been mentioned) that most good Doms have qualities of both, and take the time to learn what their subbies need.

It's the wannabees, the abusers, and the "you will respect me because I am a Dom and I don't have to earn it" types who won't... and who seem to hurt more than they help.