The Online Age: Or, a Young Online Dominant's Illustrative Primer

[Cumplete Cuntrol]

*nods head admiringly*

I appreciate this, Austerus, and I believe it will prove very helpful.

I suppose I have clearly broken Your rules of naming convention rather severely. *grins* I trust You will not be expecting Me to apologize for My choice of nomenclature.

Respectfully,
CC

[Sir.]

Well isn't this nice. After an hour of trying to come up with an acceptable name that didn't break all the rest of the rules my dear walks in the room and addresses me as Sir. Seems as if I broke the most talked about rule. Not wanting to offend or seem full of myself since I am just starting this journey an getting to know people here. that is what I might have done.
Rectifying this will get a chuckle I'm sure.
Well on a different note I want to thank you for the post. Is just what I came for. Knowledge.
Time to take a step back so I can continue forward.
Signed
(Name to be determined)

[jules]

Sir.
Name not withstanding.. in my humble opinion, you just took the first major step.. Looking for advice and help and admitting you don't know everything.. You have my congratulations and respect already.

[just_ine]

I'm bumping this old thread after talking about it to a Friend.

After rereading it, I want to add that I agree...what a subbie doesn't need is an inconsistant Dom. Nothing that makes me feel all fluttery inside than when He demands only my best. It gives the message that He actually think I am able to do what He asks of me. And so it empowers me...

Go figure... Giving over control is an empowering thing...

[Kuve {Sett}]

of course giving over control is empowering, it allows you to be who you are without apology or excuses and to explore your own nature and sexuality free of vanilla social judgement. What could possibly more empowering?

[thir]

I'm bumping this old thread after talking about it to a Friend.

After rereading it, I want to add that I agree...what a subbie doesn't need is an inconsistant Dom. Nothing that makes me feel all fluttery inside than when He demands only my best. It gives the message that He actually think I am able to do what He asks of me. And so it empowers me...

Go figure... Giving over control is an empowering thing...

And I agree with you both, but have to say it is quite rare to find a Dom who is consistent.

[Mrs-Sett {Kuve}]

And I agree with you both, but have to say it is quite rare to find a Dom who is consistent.

Consistency is difficult to find as dynamics do vary. Dom or subbing by numbers’ would provide such a thing, but as each relationship is unique, it would be difficult to successfully maintain. However, should honest communication actually be embraced then an exclusive form could be achieved.

Unfortunately, I could offer that when one determines ‘this’ works/worked, they may be reluctant to accept that this could fail to be as effective within another relationship. Then the interaction deteriorates, as the parties involved fail to achieve what they truly desire. Play becomes simply that play’ and people get let down or in the worst case scenario badly hurt.

Empowerment of another is exquisite when it is provided, but has to be accepted for it to be effective?