How important is the BDSM element for you?

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IDCrewDawg: Not meaning to be obnoxious but doesn't this "full-on" view of a bdsm life mean that you pretty much give up plans of having a career at work, of adapting to new conditions, and decide to move only with people in the Lifestyle? If you're aiming to pitch for a career of some kind (and I'm not talking of being CEO or a big statesman, just a job with some influence of what you're doing and ability to earn some good bread) then you'll need to invite people over to your place sometimes without preparing for a week by stowing away the equipment and the pictures and a week after getting them up again, it works to be an approachable person. And sorry, in the mainstream world, people don't always see bdsm as a great commitment.
Some can understand it, fairly many will tolerate it as something you choose to do, but less than 5% I think, will feel comfortable with only hardline leathered sado-masochists around for a party every week. And if you're not making money comfortably then how do you intned to pay for your toys and get the time and money to buy a house and build your Dream Dungeon?

I dont find your question obnoxious.

I have a career, full time job. Just cause I don't associate myself with people outside of the BDSM community doesn't mean that I am dressed in leather, and carry a crop around with me all the time. I blend with the 'regular' crowd quite well. I do not plan on having people over to my house from work. I leave work at work. My friends that I have are not from work. I find it easier to leave work behind me by doing this. No 'shop talk' in my home, and a relaxed environment for me to enjoy my time, how I want.

If being able to make it in the world requires me to have work mates at my house, then I will not ever have the kind of job you think I will. I have always said, and continue to say "If your not happy doing it, why the fuck are you doing it?" I live by that attitude. I am happy in my current job, and my next job will allow me the same liberties.

As far as buying a house, and having my dream dungeon. I don't necessarily need to have stone walls, and cages to have a 'dream dungeon'. I do make money comfortably. Perhaps I don't live middle class, and drive a BMW or such things. I do however enjoy my current position in life enough to not feel the need to run the rat race to bigger pay, more prestige.