Duktig, thank you for bringing this topic up. Even though I figured a lot out on the boards, this one really hit the nail with some lingering questions.

Initially, when I started lurking in these boards, I realised that the subs were more then happy being in a D/s relationship. To some it was erotic/exciting, to others, it provided a neat structure with strict guidelines in their life.

But I still never completely understood why. Why would someone endure certain things like spanking or humiliation. At this point, I knew I was really interested in BDSM, but had no interest in being a sub, as well, I wasn't comfortable taking complete charge of someone else like the doms on these boards. Later I realised I am probably a switch, and most if not all questions I had about D/s relationships made a lot more sense.

So to give you a perspective on relationships on both sides from the same peron, I can tell you that on certain times, I love to be able to give away power to someone else, and on during other time, having someone else under my control. It's an undescribable feeling.



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On a side note, how is BDSM the same as a normal relationship? One is based on inequality while the other is based on equality. I don't see the parallel.
I get where you're coming from, but it would come down to what is equality specifically mean for someone. I'm sure that someone in a vanilla relationship would think that some subs here have completely given up certain rights as a human. But while there might be an absence of certain 'equalities' like final say on decisions, etc. it is replaced by completely adoration of doms to their sub, and amazing trust.