Thanks to everyone who's responded so far. This wasn't for research or anything, I'm a single mum too (my SO comes down on the weekends) so these Q's have been on my mind off and on for awhile. I just had to ask since I've heard some suggestions on viewing taking care of others as an act of submission but I've just never been able to see it that way. What I do for my daughter I do out of love and a desire to take care of both of us. Obviously as a parent she has to be my priority. I would be lost if something happened to her. She's still pretty young so I have plenty of time left to review parenting techniques and decide on what's right for me.

I grew up a household with a single mum who never spoke of BDSM. She did know what it was though (as I found out later when I stumbled on her book collection.) Sex was never a taboo subject but she also didn't go out of her way to share. I'd like to continue that thought with my daughter. I want her to be able to come to me with any questions she might have but also don't really want her to know the details of my own experiences, it would too much information imo.

So, I do appreciate hearing from all of you. It helps to know what other parents (and children of such parents) think on the subject.