so..what is a real Dom like?

[Doctor Slocum]

I'm not sure if LMK view is quite correct. In a normal relationship then of course both partners would take their partners needs into consideration. BUT is a Ds relationshiop the same. If it is what is it that makes a Ds relationship Ds?

I would suggest the difference is the Dom does what pleases him and the sub derives her pleasure from the pleasure she gives to her dominant. He should not need to consider her, his pleasure is her pleasure.

This works when the couple are compatible, when their interests are broadly the same. In the OP case it seems Sirs Goodgirl wants to explore and either her partner doesn't want to or doesn't have the experience to offer her something new and different. Its blind lead blind. If her dominant didn't object to her being used by another be it a threesome, watching or loaning her out then compatibility is achieved.

[The Jaded Dominant { koral }]

I agree with LaMaarKee's view on communication as well as Dark's.. Doc.. well I have some issues with your point of view but not enough to post here....
Now while communication is a 2 way street so is Training.
Every Dominant has the responsibility to continue to learn...
A Dominant should know the subs need,wants and desires. This comes as LaMarr said through open and honest communication....
But once those are indeed known it is NOT the subs job to see You have learned what she is interested in. It is not the subs job to seek other Dominants out and continue to OMG Learn. the point of this if One does not learn and your sub asks/begs/pleaded You to learn well guess what folks said sub goes elsewhere.
Submissives need a challenge as much as a Dominant does indeed a Dominant IMNSHO should always be open to new ideas and techniques. Learning never ends for either end of the whip. A Dominant the one in "charge" YOU need to set the example of being open to new ideas and techniques.. YOU need to be the One who admits they do not know but will Learn...
is this a odd point of view..nah it is a Old School one. We realize as do most professional communities Members of the Legal Profession, Teachers,Engineers all have to take continuing education to keep up with the changes..
This Life is fluid. things change.. Toys change..styles change some guy down the street you never met came up with a new idea for a play toy...
while subs are REQUIRED by their Dominants to learn they cannot demand One's Dom to learn without risk of consequences..
A good and experienced Dom knows the result if They do not... the loss of the one who holds the Ultimate Power.. the sub when she asks for release........
something to ponder and reflect upon.
rani and I hope your Holidays are blessed