Safewording unnecessarily

[Tojo]

It seems to me that you made a mistake, didn't trust him & don't want that to happen again.

Well it also seems that you're only human.

Maybe you can just forgive yourself & relax?


Tojo

[gloombunny]

It seems to me that you made a mistake, didn't trust him & don't want that to happen again.

Well it also seems that you're only human.

Maybe you can just forgive yourself & relax?

I don't think it's fair to put the responsibility entirely on her like that. If she felt overwhelmed enough to use her safeword (and it's pretty clear that she doesn't take that usage lightly), then didn't her dom make a mistake by pushing her too far? Shouldn't a dom be trying not to exceed his sub's limits? If this was a failure of obedience on phantasy's part, then it was just as much a failure of judgement on her dom's part.

Which is how they seem to be thinking of it, judging from phantasy's last post, so I'm glad.