Safewords and Safesigns

[mina]

(omg I’m up during the day!)


Are they a good thing? Sure. I think it’s a good idea to have one (especially for new partners), and generally agree with what has been said so far, but...

Getting to this question,

do you consider they add or subtract from playtimes?

For me, it would limit my enjoyment of the "play". Knowing that I, the sub, had some kind of power to stop it if I wanted, that there was a "safety net"... really turns me off. There was some discussion of this in my intro as well, and there I said, "I want it to feel slightly dangerous, I want him to have total control like that." And I still agree with that.

But just because we don’t have a safeword doesn’t mean there aren’t discussions that take place before and after. Well, not always, but it really depends on what exactly the situation is. Not so much now, but of course when we first started doing stuff there were lengthy discussions about it. He pretty much knows what I can take.

Another thing I wanted to comment on, just to show a different point of view, was this:

For example, kindapping roleplays... a situation where no doesn't mean no if you're in character. I wouldn't ever enter one seriously without a safeword backup in place.

I don’t know about you all, but if we were going to do a kidnapping/rape thing... what would be the point of a safeword? In kidnapping/rape situations, there is no way out for the "victim". I guess it depends on how far you want to take it/how real you want it to be. Obviously if you know the other person it’s not going to seem real, but I don’t want to know what’s going to happen either. When we did something like that before, I didn’t know when it would happen or anything, and of course there was no "safe" word, and it was crazy (the good kind ) but oh so exciting.

Hmm... forgot what else I wanted to say. Will add more later if I think of it.