Quote Originally Posted by cariad(CC)
I am currently involved in a conversation in the chat room with someone who is fairly new to our lifestyle about safewords.

Do you think they are a good thing, and do you consider they add or subtract from playtimes? Does it make any difference if you know and trust the Dom/me you are playing with?

cariad
I might be new to the lifestyle, but I had done a lot of research to know that safewords are an EXCELLENT thing to have, and they add to the playtime. I recall when I had been in a scene online I was gagged, yet the Mistress I was with had placed something in my hand and told me to drop it if I needed to discuss something or tell her to stop. I know not how it will work for me once I extend it to real time, but I feel that they are very important and it definately makes a difference if you know and trust the Dominant you are with as one Dominant might use one thing as a safeword, and another might use a totally different one so if you were to use the safeword you used with one, it might not work with the other.

Hope this helps any,

Rick Bulow