Originally posted by LostOne
All I know is orgasm control is not something I look forward to trying again. The whole experience made me feel so inadequate and bad as a submissive. So many weeks spent not being able to do as I was told were heart wrenching. He would command me to cum and I couldn't.

Has anybody had any good results to share and maybe help me let go of the fear of ever trying it again?

Karen
I used to have a lover I could make cum on command. I'll doubt I would ever go through all that trouble again, but it was fun, I'll give it that. There aren't any books on the subject that I know of, but I approached it differently than your master.

First of all, I never trained her not to cum. She would just tell me she was close and I would stop the stimulation. Hence, begging and pleading, but no coming.

To cum on command, I did similar, taking her to the edge, telling her not to cum, pausing, then giving her permission and providing a last bit of stimulation for orgasm. Later, I was able to get her to orgasm without the last bit of stimulation.

So, it wasn't like you read about in books where the slave is ordered to orgasm while in a church and she involuntarily does so. I would have to get her worked up first. But, we didn't work at it every day or anything...it was just part of our play once or twice a week. Other people have probably done much better, but it was fun and we both enjoyed it.