Yes, I did just write that heading!

I suspect that I can identify at least one of the examples Rabbit is talking about here.

If I am right, the gentleman concerned most certainly is not dom, and in my opinion does not have the personality to ever be one. He is not a bad guy, infact I love chatting to him about all sorts of things.

Unfortunately he is just in the wrong place. His sexual drive is nearly always in hyperdrive and the chat room just seems like pardise to him.

I have spent hours trying to explain the difference between being highly sexed and dominant, and failed. But this is not his fault, he is not a nasty wannabe or a bully, just an over sexed vanilla bean with a blind spot.

In the example I am thinking of, I did take the lady concerned to one side when I was horrified to find she was falling into his clutches. I endeavoured to explain, but was assured that he was just what she wanted and she was ever so happy.

So in support of Rabbit's post - yes subs it is our job to educate ourselves, look out for the signs, and think before we jump. But if we get it wrong, please remember it is not always the wannabes Dom's fault, it could be ours.

cariad