I believe it's quite a challenge to give adequate aftercare in an online setting where you're so deprived of a lot of channels. I'm one of those 'stubborn' subs that Aesop talked about and like to work things out for myself, not wanting my dom to get worried or think that I need help. I find it hard to address feelings, especially slightly negative ones, directly after a session. I play it cool or am extremely giggly...sometimes that's the way I really feel, at least for a short time afterwards, but sometimes it's a wall I hide behind. Figuring out what's actually the case or digging a little deeper must be a challenge for any dom. *sighs*

What helps me sometimes, is writing things down for myself. I'm happy to pass on those notes later, but first of all I want to find my own words and reflect. Asking me directly afterwards usually gets very little and redundant information to what's going on inside me.

It's getting better, though. The closer I get to my Master and the more I trust him, the easier it is for me to open up.