A is for Aftercare

[cariad]

The aftercare I provide is fresh cool water, a blanket, and letting them float back down to reality like a feather does to the ground. Once they begin to make more sounds than the kind of grunts heard by neanderthals. I ask them how they are doing, I usually ask them if they know their name first, then ask if they know where they are, then ask if they know what day it is. This helps me gage if they are still lost in the euphoria of subspace, or back in touch with the rest of the planet.

ID, I could not agree more with the transition you describe, although I would not wished to be asked questions. I can see why you do it, but attempting to answer questions, I might try pull myself out of subspace rather than just 'float back to reality'.

Once they are able to regain control of their muscles to the point of walking without needing to be held up. I talk with them about the scene. Not to ask if they enjoyed it (it was too obvious that they did usually). I ask them how they felt about what was done, if they felt certian things I did, what they were aware of, and what they were not.

At this point I am not ready for analysis, just to enjoy at a very simple level both for myself and to give my Dom positive feedback. For me, the more detailed analysis cannot come until after I have slept on it, and returned to full mental functionality.

In the online enviroment, I found that a submissive can experience the after effects for quite some time, and that talking to them asking them how they feel, if they are ok and such helps to let them know that you are concerned for their well being.

Again, fully supporting what you say ID. Aftercare is just as important online, although is even harder for both parties, particularly in the early stages when verbal communication skills are low. I don't think there are any easy answers, other than both have a responsibility to devote time to after care, to give and receive communications to the best of their ability and to remember that this should be borne in mind, hours or even days later.

cariad