Wannabe subs - an undiscussed topic?

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What we need in this discussion is a definition of what the word entails. Because it seems to be different for all of us.

I quote wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glossary_of_BDSM

Wannabe: Someone who thinks or claims to be knowledgeable about BDSM, but is not. Especially prevalent with new Doms.

We can apply that in this instance to submissives.

As far as having D/s in a sexual or non sexual context, or online vs offline.

That is simply a matter of preference. One or the other is not better that the other. To claim it is, well that undermines the pricipals of BDSM.

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[TomOfSweden]

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I quote wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glossary_of_BDSM


We can apply that in this instance to submissives.

As far as having D/s in a sexual or non sexual context, or online vs offline.

That is simply a matter of preference. One or the other is not better that the other. To claim it is, well that undermines the pricipals of BDSM.

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Ok, if we chose to accept that defintion then there's another problem. A person can be very knowledgable about "BDSM-theory" but still haven't a clue what they themselves are into. And then there's a lot of, what I would define as "BDSM-nerds" who know "everything". It's just that people who've developed as Doms, (or subs) completly outside the BDSM scene, just like me have problems relating to some of the commonly accepted truths.

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Ok, if we chose to accept that defintion then there's another problem. A person can be very knowledgable about "BDSM-theory" but still haven't a clue what they themselves are into. And then there's a lot of, what I would define as "BDSM-nerds" who know "everything". It's just that people who've developed as Doms, (or subs) completly outside the BDSM scene, just like me have problems relating to some of the commonly accepted truths.

How do you express what it feels like, unless you know? How do you express the experience (sights, sounds smells), unless you have seen it or been apart of it?

I beleive these tidbits of information apply to the knowledge question. One can know what it is like to have someone online do what you tell them, thus making online knowledge just as viable as real time.

Additionaly, as has been stated, wannabe can be as simple as the context in how it is used.

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