I too have had those I don't want to days. Especially if the kids have been acting up. I usually tell my Master of my day and he is usually willing to accomidate me. It is nice to have your husband be your Dom. He knows how hard delaing with the kids and house can be. Especially since I am a stay at home mom. I just think about how I feel while I am pleasing my Master and I am able to get into the mood. That and seeing the look in his eyes.