Ever feel like you're just not in the mood to be a sub?

[Ozme52]

Submissives are the epitome of sensual beings.

Knowing that, when you feel that way, not in the mood. is it better if your Dom relents or demands. Do you want to be dominated back into being sensual or would you like to be mundane for the evening.

[phantasy_seeker]

Submissives are the epitome of sensual beings.

Knowing that, when you feel that way, not in the mood. is it better if your Dom relents or demands. Do you want to be dominated back into being sensual or would you like to be mundane for the evening.

I guess that depends on how severe the lack of mood was? If it was just 'nah, don't much feel like it', some really good domming usually gets me right back into the mood. In fact, I myself am pretty amused at how easy it is. A few words by him, or a task or two... that dom-look would probably work as well, but ah, the limitations of online D/s.

However, if it's the really really bad mood, like if something really terrible happened to me during the day and I am really upset or angry, I certainly don't need a demanding Dom to add to it. I'm sure most subs here would require gentle care and compassionate understanding. And believe it or not, that can actually be done in a firm Dom-ly way, and be the more comforting for that.

[fantassy]

Do you want to be dominated back into being sensual or would you like to be mundane for the evening.

That's the tough part. Usually, I do want to be "dominated back into being sensual" (what a great way to describe it!); however, sometimes He must tread a fine line. If He puts a word wrong unintentionally, sometimes I'll just flash to anger/irritation/stubborn resistence internally and withdrawal externally. I wish I could predict the reaction, but I can't. Often I am at my most submissive after the most stressful days - it is such a relief. Other times, when I've had a stressful yet successful day, I ride that adrenalin high of being able to conquer the world and beat up any opponent. Those are the dangerous days. . . . And that's not even considering the hormonal influences. Whew ! Domming sure is a tough job!

fantassy