Sorry to butt in a bit off thread. Just wanted to say - LOVE the graphic Pet Amanda has! It's really beautiful.

Maddie, I know I'm only new here, and can't talk from long-term experience, but instinct says, well, sure, we must all get days when we don't want to be submissive - or days when we don't want to be/do something else we normally really love being/doing, cook, go out dancing, dinner with friends, reading, whatever. It seems to me that in any relationship, D/s or other, you need the balance and good communication between the partners for a loving understanding that anyone can have 'off' days, especially where the stress of life is getting in the way.