toolongtoosoon,

I think you just need to take it easy and let things happen. The most important advice for someone new to the lifestyle is to not rush into anything.

I started out by becoming an active member of this community. Make friends. Get to know people. Follow your heart.

There is no "right way" to participate in BDSM. Anyone who tells you otherwise doesn't know what they are talking about.

I found that I learned the most by making friends, both Tops and Bottoms. Friendships with other submissives can be just as important as a relationship with a Dom/me when you are just starting out.

When you are ready, come and stop by the chatroom. It is a great way to get to know people.

-lily