I have had some light short sessions I usually end up being the one who is the dominant but I really wana be the sub however those sessions that where with girlfriends where short (20 min) and light. They didn't really get into it, it was more of just being sexy as opposed to dominating. I know I am masochistic and have quit a few kinks but to get to the point where should I start getting into all this with. I mean should I find a club or a person to show me the ropes (pun intended) I just want to get into this but none of the relationships I have had have been with dominating people or have just been with vanilla people (I think I used that term right). As you can see I'm a major newbie to the scene and somewhat young to boot but I just don't really know where to go or what to look for. I read the tips for begainers post but I could still use help. Thanks for responding.