M 327-834-200, if I am interpreting your words correctly, you and I have polar opposite views on this topic. Do you see every act of submission a sub performs for her Dom to be a humiliating act? If so, why? If not, where do you draw the line? If wearing a collar is humiliating, is wearing a wedding ring? How are you defining what is a humiliating act? I'd really love hear more of your thoughts on this.

fantassy
Count me in on the viewpoint of seeing nothing humiliating about wearing a collar, personally. For me it's an act of serious pride.

Timberwolf
I hope the wording of my post has not confused issues. The wearing of a collar 'could' be seen as humiliation by some, it was not a statement of my view of this wonderful act of commitment. It was merely to illustrate the point that defining anything as humiliating is a conflict between what we find acceptable or pleasureable and what others deem humiliation. It is similar to the debate of what is 'normal'. I have never been an advocate of attaching labels to anyone or anything. (except christmas presents possibly)

This is an interesting thread that psynymph started and I for one thank her for it. I think it would be fruitless for me to define what I find humiliating for the above reasons.

Where it comes truly into play for us as participants is when we explore the edges of our limits. That is where the frisson of excitement occurs. If we push our boundaries that little bit further than last time, getting ever closer to our hard limits there is the tension and excitement that could be defined as humiliation play.

This balance point will be unique and different to everyone and every couple. For me these limits are truly only reachable when with someone I love and care for because the trust has to be total to get to the very edge of our limits.

I hope that clears up my earlier post because I in no way want my slave reading this and thinking that I see her wearing her collar as an act of humiliation. (I know what it means to both of us my darling)

Thank you